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How to Deal with a Breakup

Breakups can be very difficult and devastating. By reading on, you will  be able to learn the advice I’ve learned over the years that might help you to move on, make things right between you and your ex or even give your relationship a second go.

It doesn’t matter why you guys broke up, all relationships that end consist of one or two people needing some space away from the situation. You can explore all your alternatives while you guys apart. Take advantage of the time apart and use it as a chance to reevaluate the direction your life is going, an opportunity for experiencing life as a single person, dating other people, or rethinking your goals. Really you can do anything with that time apart. If you got dumped, the main reason behind it, is your partner wants to see what their options are and take a breather from the relationship.

I advise you to give your partner the space that they need. You will push them further away from you if you keep bugging them about getting back together. They need space and if you keep contacting them, they will take that as a sign you aren’t willing to give them the space they desperately want. If you want to keep in contact with your ex to maintain a friendship or as a way to someday get back together with them, you will still have to give them the emotional space they are asking for. Being able to understand this, will allow you to give them the right amount of space they need easily.

I usually advise my friends that are going through this to take about two weeks to a month to stop all contact with thier ex. Giving them space is definitely not easy. Oh, I know how tempting it is to call, text or email your ex, it can be excruciating to fight back those urges.

This will help you because this will give your ex a chance to miss you. You will undoubtedly be on his mind when you give him the space he needs. All those fun times, sweet moments,cozy memories will be on his mind while you guys are apart. You’ve heard it before, “absence makes the heart grow fonder.”

Take advantage of the “no contact” rule yourself. This time alone will give you a chance to decompress from all the messy feelings that coincide with a recent break up. You can use this time to decide if this relationship is worth saving. Having some time alone will give you an opportunity to try new things and meet new people as well. You might find yourself an improved person when your not in that relationship.

Who knows, maybe your ex will reach out to you at this time. It may feel like your prayers are answered if you’ve done all you can to get him back only to find all you’ve done was push him away.

In conclusion, if you find yourself being dumped,follow my tips and don’t call your ex for a few weeks. I’m pretty sure it will be tough, but in doing so, it will help your situation.

If you enjoyed this article, also check out Advice for Women in Break Ups, How to Repair a Broken Heart, and How to Live with a Breakup.

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Filed under Conflict : Comments (0) : Dec 9th, 2009

”Winning back your ex” VS ”Healing a broken heart”

Where ever we go we see love. You can’t escape it, it’s as if everything is saturated in it. Whenever you turn on the TV you will see a show about love. There will always be another Dr.Phil giving a relationship advice or another desperate house wife cheating on her husband before the big breakup.

Books are no different.

The romantic section is probably one of the biggest ones and titles like how to get your ex back are readily available. Entertainment publications, talk about about celebrities. They publish information about celebrity breakups and cheating.

 

It’s so evident that it’s not even worth mentioning. We are clearly preoccupied by romance.

Even though it sounds bad, I think it’s a great thing.

Especially in countries like Canada and Russia.

That’s because their number of citizens is slowly going down. There, a lot of people are more preoccupied with their careers and less with the family.

T.V praises money and riches and pays less attention to love.

It’s not to say that there are no “love” shows in those countries. But I think media should concentrate less on the drama and more on the positive. They show cheating adventures of a husband as if it was the norm. Why not show a faithful husband that comes home to spend time with his kids. We see the same trend in printed media. There are now more and more books that explain how to get over a bad breakup. Why is it so hard to find a book that will explain how to fix a relationship and help you get your lover back after a bad breakup? In my humble opinion those things will do more good than harm.

 

Southern parts of the U.S have staggering separation rates (1 in 3 separate. This is too much. It’s as if people decide to jump the ship and shop elsewhere too quickly. What about the promise: “till death do us apart”? If the wife is cheating it does not mean the husband needs to breakup right away. This act of betrayal, must have been provoked by something. Is it something that husband did not do? Could it be a minor change in the way the couple communicated? I think the 80 / 20 rule applies here too, where as 80 percent of the difference is caused by 20 percent of change. It’s been said that the top reason why wives go to look elsewhere is the lack of recognition.

So let’s appreciate each other more. Let’s look beyond things that differentiate us and concentrate on things that unite us. Let’s be tolerant to each other. We can choose the feelings of fondness instead of anger. For we shall pass here but once.

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Filed under General : Comments (0) : Jan 16th, 2009