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Cheating Spouse? Don’t Make This Mistake
At this point, if you are reading this, you have probably already done some sort of investigating or maybe even used spy equipment to find out what is going on.I know that you need to know what is going on, you want answers now? If you suspect you spouse or partner of cheating, and plan on doing some snooping around, what you don’t do may be every bit as important as what you do. In general you do not want to tip your cheating spouse off to the fact that you are suspicious of their cheating or infidelity.
The biggest mistake that you could possibly make is to confront your spouse before you have done an investigation and/or have proof of the affair that they cannot deny. In no way should you let your spouse no that you are suspicious. He/she is already being secretive and hiding the truth from you. If you show your hand too soon it will make it extremely difficult to find the truth.
If you think about it, when you ask them directly, they have no choice but to deny it. If the are being faithful they have to deny it. If they are cheating on you, but they don’t want your relationship to end, they will deny it because it will either kill the relationship or badly damage it – something they don’t want. If they are cheating on you and they plan on leaving, our experience tells us that they will lie to you until the very last minute for one of two reasons, the person they want to be with is not 110% committed to be with them indefinitely or they feel that they cannot get divorced due to monetary or religious concerns. In short, there is almost no opportunity for the truth to come out on it’s own and if it does, the timing is completely controlled by your unfaithful spouse.
The bottom line is that if he/she knows that you are onto them they will go to even greater lengths to cover their tracks, making it even more difficult for you to find out the truth.
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Dec 13th, 2008
Basic Techniques to Catch an Unfaithfull Spouse
If you suspect that your partner or spouse is not being faithful or is having an affair their are many methods that can be used to find out the truth. This article will cover some of the basics that anyone can do with know special equipment or training.
If you would like to use a more “high tech” approach such as spy cameras or GPS trackers please visit an online spy store.
The first thing that you should do is keep a detailed record of reported activities of your partner or spouse. Write down the times, dates, places, other people involved, excuses given, etc. The notes that you take will be indespensable to you when comparing what is told to you with ATM receipts, telephone bills statements etc. A spouse that is cheating is very likely to change thier story, and will try to challenge your memory when you confront them, a detailed record of everything is extremely important for this reason.
Keep track of all incoming phone calls. Record the date, time and phone numer of all the calls.
Go through the trash, his or her wallet, purse, pockets etc. when they are not around. If your partner is going to restaurants, bars, movies or anywhere else with their suspected lover there will be receipts and they will surely want to get rid of them. It is possible that he/she will become sloppy and put them in the garbage at home or hide it in a purse or billfold. If you find anything that you are suspicious of or cannot explain save it as evidence or write down the details and put the receipt back where you found it so that he/she does not get suspicious. Your partner is already being secretive so do not let them know that you are suspicious of them or they will go to even greater lengths to cover their tracks.
Plan a surprise visit to work, or come home at unexpected times, or tell your partner that you have to work late, but then come home early, etc..
Keep track of your partner’s mileage, receipts, credit card statements, atm withdrawals (unaccounted for cash), phone records, etc.
If you can, check your Partner’s call log. Look for an unusual amount of phone calls. Keep in mind that cheating spouses often store their lover’s phone number under someone else’s name (a friend, a co-worker, etc.).
Confronting your spouse before you have the evidence that you need to make your case should not be an option. And never reveal all of your evidence at once. When presented with evidence many cheating partners will make up a story that fits that evidence. But, if you withhold some evidence, and let your spouse/partner create a story, it gives you the opportunity to use the remaining evidence as leverage. By strategically withholding evidence, your spouse will start to question exactly how much you know, increasing the chance that he or she will tell the truth.
If anything out of the ordinary comes up don’t confront your spouse unless you have proof enough to force a confession.
Think for a minute about how your partner might try to dismiss your accusations (we were just joking around, I was just flirting, it was a misunderstanding, we are just friends, nothing happened, etc.). Anticipating how your spouse will respond will help you to be prepared, gather evidence that you may need to respond to thier denial.
The important things to remember are, be diligent in your investigation, keep thorough records and save anything and everything.
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Dec 6th, 2008