How Can I Get My Ex Back? Here’s The Answer
I regularly receive emails asking me “how can I get my ex back?” If you want to know the answer to this question too, then keep reading – because I’m going to tell you exactly what I tell them.
Specifically, we’re going to discuss why you need to stop “chasing” your ex, why you need to give yourself time to deal with the negative and painful emotions you’re experiencing, and how to handle the initial meeting with your ex after the break up. By the time you’ve finished reading this article, you’ll know the answer to this question in detail.
Firstly, you need to make sure you’re not going to start “chasing” your ex to get them back. Why? Because the more you chase, the more they will run away from you. Put yourself in their shoes: If someone is constantly calling you, texting you, trying to “bump into you”, how would you feel? Would you want to get back into a relationship with that person? Or would it reinforce your decision to break up with them in the first place?
You want to show yourself to be calm and in control of yourself. Never be desperate or needy. Also, don’t “try hard” to force them back into a relationship with you. In the end, it will always be up to them. Don’t try to “persuade” them – you’re do better by portraying yourself as “desirable”. This is how you will get your ex back.
Next, you need to give yourself time to deal with the negative emotions you’re going through. If you still have feelings of hurt and pain, you need to let go of these feelings before you try to get your ex back. Why? Because otherwise you’re going to start arguments (whether you consciously intended to or not). This is why I recommend that you stay away from your ex for at least a few weeks, to give things a chance to settle down.
But what if not meeting them again isn’t possible? Perhaps you work at the same place, or go to the same college? If this happens to you, don’t try to avoid them. If you see them coming towards you, don’t just run away in the other direction – because this will look odd. Instead, be warm and friendly towards your ex. But don’t go over the top, be sincere.
Now let’s talk about the initial meeting. It really is very important that you feel ready for the first meet. This means you must work on getting your head straight, so you’re not subsconsciously holding negative feelings towards your ex. Because it will shine through clear as day.
Your primary aim should be to have fun, and make sure your ex has fun too. Not to dwell on past differences, frustrations and arguments. Don’t try to make them feel jealous of your new lifestyle, it will be transparent and make you look unattractive.
In conclusion, this guide has given you some useful tips for how to answer the question “how do I get my ex back?” Now that you’ve read this article, you should have a good general overview of what to do and say when you’re around your ex, so ultimately you can learn how to get your ex back.
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Mar 7th, 2009
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