Having More Intimacy

Something that we all seem to want at core is intimacy.  That feeling of close connection with another or others.  It is a basic need that drives us to get into relationship or marriage.  Yet after we get into a relationship we find that intimacy can slip from our grasp and out of our love life.

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Over time, intimacy becomes something that often seems elusive and we struggle to try to get it or keep it.  Our intimacy needs can drive us to get a divorce, because if we aren’t feeling intimate with our mate, we know we have to search elsewhere for it. 

We all have intimacy needs.  These are hardwired into our systems.  Men and women have different approaches to getting their intimacy needs met.  You’ve heard the saying “Women give sex to get love, and men give love to get sex.”  This saying points to an underlying theme about sex in relationships.  

Men equate intimacy with sex.  One of the primary ways men go about getting their intimacy needs met is through sex.  When they feel the need to be close, they want sex.  After climax, they often retreat behind their walls until the intimacy need builds up and they want sex again.

While men are from mars, in this way, women are from venus.  They can enjoy intimacy and deep bonding from sex, and also from communication.  Women, in general, have more ways that they can experience and express intimacy.

You don’t have intimacy forever just because you felt it once with your mate.  You have to keep working on it.  Sex can’t be your only method for experiencing intimacy.  Familiarity and taking each other for granted can kill off intimacy.  Find out more about intimacy beyond sex.

A great way to have more intimacy is to talk to each other, but it is more in how you talk than what words you say.  If you listen to each other with real interest, and accept your mate and make them feel heard and understood, you will be more likely to experience it.

You can have more intimacy by practicing intimate communication.  This means to share yourself and listen from your heart, with interest in what your mate has to say and without judging them.  Making them feel heard and understood rather than taken for granted is a powerful way to promote more intimacy on a daily basis. Learn more about this in the free course How To Fix Relationship Problems.

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